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She who hath ears to ear, let her hear. http://lds.org/conference/talk/displ...439-26,00.html |
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Listen, I'm thankful to Cougarguard because until today, I had no idea Sister Beck's talk had ruffled so many feathers. In fact, I make the semiannual joke with Mrs. Smails to wake me up when the RS/Primary/YW counselor is done speaking, but this time around I listened, and I was very impressed (as was Mrs. Smails).
I'm a lifetime Mormon, returned missionary, living in Idaho with a stay at home mom for a wife and 5 children under the age of 9. That said, I'm usually pretty sensitive to how others might view a talk even if I tend to fall in with the rank and file, but apparently I was way off on this one. I'm pretty sure every doctrine taught by the brethren has been consistent throughout the years and is a softer version of "a woman's place is in the home", generally with exceptions (methinks it was the lack of exceptions in Sister Beck's talk that has everyone's collective panties in a bunch) One of those softer versions is taken from the Proclamation on the Family: "Mothers are primarily responsible for the nurture of their children." Clearly, there are situations where a woman needs to be in the workforce. And absolutely women should get as much education as possible - I believe the Brethren have been consistent with both of these principles, but they should be "primarily responsible for the nurture of their children". Sister Beck set the bar awfully high, I realize, but I believe the Savior said "Be ye therefore perfect". Where's the uproar over that one? Does anyone think the Savior thinks we'll be perfect starting this week? Do you think Sister Beck thinks we will close down all MTC's and replace them with mini-MTCs? What's wrong with proclaiming the ideal? I think that's all Sister Beck did and to that I say kudos. and Go Cougars. |
You have a smug style and look down at people due to your high self appraisal of your intellect and have a way of subtly, yet intentionally, insulting people with it. But I will try to avoid going there with you.
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You probably don't understand why anyone gets bugged when single men are called out during conference either. Also you live in Idaho. :) |
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We as a Church feel compelled to direct sociological structures without science to back it up. Do we need science in all aspects? No, but some wouldn't hurt. If it's a social structure we desire, that's fine, but dictating it for all or most may not be fine. I just believe society has changed so much that structures ideal for the 1950s may no longer apply. |
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With that in mind, I am bugged by those I perceive to "kick against the pricks". There are clearly some gray areas related to stay at home mothers, single men, etc. I'm more bothered by Pro-choice mormons, or pro-lottery mormons, those who take the white stance, when the Church's position is clearly black. While I think I could take some of the other talks more humbly than I did, I think a little humility might be in order (holy cow, I'm asking for it - duck and cover) for some who are so disgruntled by Sister Beck's talk. Does humility = quit your job/your wife's job and schedule 3 hours a day of family scripture study? No. But it would require acceptance of her talk for what it was - a talk that set the ideal, and was approved by men I believe to be Prophets of God in a forum that can be highly correlated (check me on this Indy) with "Thus Saith the Lord". Anyone know where I can get some flame retardant. |
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And it's good you're married to somebody who fits your style. Congrats, she must be a very patient woman. I notice you ignored the substance of my post. |
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The point of whether women should stay at home or not is a worthwhile discussion. I believe in it, but I'm not emotional about it. I am emotional about someone lumping all stay-at-home mom's together and making disparaging remarks about their intellect, ambitions, or work ethic. |
Did you read what you quoted?
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I recognize my need to be more humble and I identified it in my original post. I'm also not blind enough not to recognize I'm not the only one in the universe who could use a little humility. Clearly, in cases where one has stewardship, they have a responsibility to call on others to gain humility, even if the speaker is less than 100% humble. Being an imperfect being, I simply chose to go beyond the bounds of my stewardship, but by no means did I suggest I was without pride. Nice try though. |
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Certainly, others can disagree all they want. I perceive a 3rd of the host of heaven did as well. {extremely TIC} |
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I only referenced my wife as an example that I'm familiar with the stay at home mentality. I'm uncertain whether my wife, if given the opportunity would make the same choice. I suppose she would have refined the choice, but it's tough to say. You seem emotional as emotionally gone off on without cause. I've argued against the Beck approach as insensitive to those who must leave or the home or those that choose to. In our culture the stay at home moms don't need a defender because that is considered the ideal. I tend to defend the minority position. Usually I'll avoid discussions on the intellect discussion, but the models of intellect are these: SIEQ, Pelagius, Mike Waters, Solon, AA, Jeff Lebowski, Creekster and Seattle [there are probably others including Indy in certain statistical matters and yourself in those matters]. In fact, you will not find me trumpeting my skill or expertise in anything. Perhaps in 11,000 posts you could find something of a joke, but I challenge you. |
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I don't know who I picked that up from. :) |
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On a related topic referenced in her talk: Does the concept of single childless women being "blessed" with husband and offspring in the afterlife fall into the doctrine or folklore category? Scriptural references are unclear on this topic. If I am to understand correctly, my eternal joy will be based on if either you or Indy take me as a plural wife and "bless" me with multiple offspring? Is this pablum designed to calm the fears of single LDS women? Where are the specific scriptural references? Is this a historical tradition common to other early cultures? Are all of our earthly problems rectified in the afterlife - i.e. will you be a Heisman Trophy winner and I will be Miss America? Serious question that is probably best addressed in a separate thread. I would be interested in the thoughts of the resident intellectuals - Archaea, CHC, Solon, SU, SC, MW, et.al. (you know who you are). I have to catch a plane and will follow up later... |
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Hysterical Hysterectomy I see similarities. Who is the board etymologist? |
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C'mon Indy, give the gal credit. That was a pretty good one. |
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Henceforth we knight ye (what is the object form of ye?) the Eight Sages. Actually we have two missing ones, Adam and Dan, who is gone in search of the Holy Grail, or some pot of gold. So actually there were ten. |
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Probably because it's a much more attainable personal goal. |
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You do realize learned and wise are two different things ;) |
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We'll worry about the Dunces of which I shall be chief. |
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I recall this being discussed during the OJ simpson murder trial after several of the news organizations repeatedly used the word hysterical to refer to Marcia Clark but nerve to any of the male attorneys. The commentary I read suggested that the usage fo the word is subtle (and perhaps unintentional) sexism becasue the word is derived from the thought that women act hysterically as a result of their gender specific plumbing, so to speak. |
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I formally withdraw my name from the group. You can replace me with Arch or, really, just about anybody becaseu just about anyone could give you what I can. Thanks for suggesting it, however. |
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