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I listened to the Beck talk again
and there was nothing there that hasn't been said 100 times. She just said it in more direct ways. I.e. you need to be a good homemaker. Getting an education doesn't mean much, if you are not a good homemaker. Being a good homemaker includes cleaning, cooking, washing.
I think this talk was vetted. It says nothing different than we have been told before. Was Beck's aggression subconscious or conscious? I'm not sure, because I'm not sure how smart she is. |
Was this the post you made for Cougarboard, only to discover that Jefe has blocked you?
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But seriously, she was not going out on a limb. Do you disagree? I think these hard-core homemaker types have a place in the church (clearly they have the central place). I just worry that others will feel excluded and unwanted and unappreciated. I have a daughter, and I will fight hard against this element in the Mormon culture, that subliminally tells her "no, you can't do this". |
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No talk is designed for everyone. |
She didn't say you need to be a "good" homemaker. She said you need to be the world's best homemaker. And you need to have children who grow up to be bishops and stake presidents.
Was I listening to a different talk than anyone else? I got absolutely no response to this post on CB about the specifics of what I heard her say: http://www.cougarboard.com/noframes/...tml?id=3074057 I truly think the way she made her points was disturbing - unintentional, but disturbing. |
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I believe that talk proves the speakers write their own talks. |
Socal, why do you think it was unintentional?
I put you in the subconscious camp. But when you think about it, to say it was subconscious is to insult her a bit. That she is not very self-aware. |
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Beck is an idiot. I'll bet she has never stepped 15 feet beyond the Murray city limits except to spout her idealistic nonsense from the Conference Center pulpit. How do such uninformed, unimpressive people get to be at the head of this church? "Weak things of the earth," my butt.
I'm tired of these pompous, condescending men and women telling us what to do. Who do they think they are, God's mouthpieces? |
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We have some bright women, why not use them, especially the single sisters who aren't married and having children as they should. ;) |
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1. Change, purely for the sake of change, is folly. 2. Accepting the proposed change(s) requires being able to project whether or not the new way constitutes an demonstrable improvement over the status quo, rather than the mere exchange of one set of deficiencies for another. |
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Can? Check. Can opener? Check. |
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Tex and Indy: before you commence your personal attacks, remember that, like you, I am a product of my upbringing. I still have two younger siblings at home being raised by a widowed mother who (insert gasp) works outside the home as a college professor. Typical of wards in Sandy, UT, my mother is outside the mainstream because she is single and works. Her last home teaching visit was in 2004 and this is not because she is not receptive. The list goes on and on but you can bet her quiet faith is exercised every day in her service, temple attendance, activity and devotion to her family and church. Where in Sister Beck's talk was there any attempt to reach out to her? Sorry not to follow your "the Church is always right" party line, but God gave me a brain. |
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And there are women who in such circumstances find ways to sharpen their intellects without formal education, I do not doubt it. However, if I were a woman, I'm not bright enough that my intellect would be adequately sharpened without formal education and without the stresses of the workplace. Whether I'm a better or worse person because of it, who knows. But my skills are sharpened through the choices I've made. Many of our women have less sharp skills because of the choices they've made. I don't accept Beck's premise that the best place for all women is in the home. Some may find it the best place if circumstances permit, but many may not. Perhaps all need some of the rigors afforded them by academia and by the workplace. If all women ran businesses and understood marketplace economics, would they be better at managing home finances? |
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I don't think it's an unreasonable criticism. I see a lot of attorneys, who have a post-graduate degree (i.e., lots of education and training) who are not particularly self-aware, and make unintentionally poor arguments. I guess the bottom line is that I really hope she wasn't trying to make that point, so I give her the benefit of the doubt and assume it's unintentional. |
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Tell me, have you ever heard a talk from a general authority or officer addressed to women in your mother's situation? If you haven't, then like Mike Waters, you haven't been listening. It is not Sister Beck's responsibility to add a little asterisk to every talk she gives saying, "If this doesn't apply to you, please ignore." What about the hundreds of worthy young men who are incapable of serving a mission because of physical or mental disabilities? Should THEY walk around each General Conference with a chip on their shoulder, getting offended everytime someone urges all worthy young men to serve? And please stop with the "woe is me, I have a brain" stuff. |
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President Hinckley has led the way, IMO, in recognizing the hard realities of the working mother. He and many others have given very good talks on the subject. Just because Sister Beck's talk in your view didn't amount to some sort of collective global feminine affirmation doesn't mean that the church isn't reaching out to your mother and many others. Can it improve in this regard? Undoubtedly. I could relate to you the reaction of my wife's friends (most of whom work, a couple which are single) to the talk, but you'd probably just reply with telling me to wear a dress for 3 months. |
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1. When I rewatched the talk last night I specifically looked for whether or not she addressed non-mothers. She did. She made a point to talk about how all women should honor the role of a mother and the concept of nurturting whether they are mothers or not, and in the hereafter they will all have the same blessings. Maybe it didn't appease you, but she did address single women. 2. It sounds like your mother was a great example of Beck's talk, providing nurturing and a safe home environment for her kids. 3. I think you might have a misunderstanding on your family's home teaching record. Widowed sisters especially with kids in the home are the #1 priority for any bishop to make sure they are home taught and other needs looked after. There must be more to the story or some kind of miscommunication if she hasn't been taught. 4. I'm not a single female, so I can't judge you for how you took Beck's talk. I agree if a large number of single females were offended, then she probably could have delivered it better. |
The MTC statement by her is not surprising given that was her life has been. She is the daughter of a mission president. She grew up in part internationally as a result. She and her husband have worked in the MTC. So for her, it is a literal statement. Not a theoretical one.
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Her perspective on things is quite narrow. It will be interesting to see if as she grows in the position and as she meets other sisters in the church, she maintains a hard line or her perspective on things change. I asked my brother what his wife thought of the talk. He said first she didn't hear it. Then he said, oh yea she did. She was in the Primary leadership in Alpine and ruffled some feathers and so my SIL really didn't pay attention to what she said. I should say this. I dont' think it is all that unusual for a leader to ruffle the feathers of someone. I am not giving her talk a real good grade, but as far as the woman goes I have no reason to think she isn't a first rate person. |
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It's not like they're teaching Adam-God and Blood Atonement in there ... it's the very basics of the gospel. Why is that such unreasonable counsel? |
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You and I will never agree on this topic because you are incapable of seeing issues from a woman's point of view. By the way, thanks for the comparison with Mike Waters. I take that as a compliment to free thinkers everywhere. |
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Next time the prophet in priesthood session says, "I'm going to talk to the bishops tonight," I'll be sure to get hot and bothered because I'm not one. Quote:
As for Mike Waters, he whined about fathers not being told to spend time with their families, about 27 seconds before Elder Oaks did just that. I suggest you don't take pride in not paying attention. |
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Rather than being inclusive, she focused solely on the stay at home mothers with the clear implication they are God's elect. She wasted a perfect opportunity to reach out to all women. .............. This is why I think there will be some clarification made at a later date. It may formal or very informal like an article in the Ensign about working moms and how valuable they are or the single gals in the church and their great contributions. Don't ever look for anything positive though coming about single males in the church. They have been singled out as road kill and no one gets upset about it. |
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