tooblue |
11-06-2008 06:02 PM |
*Don't tell my children* but I absolutely hated school, especially elementary and Junior High. In retrospect I was bored to tears which fueled laziness. Honestly, there was very little in the curriculum that interested me or motivated me. In many ways I felt trapped, like a round peg in a square hole stuck in a vicious cycle of thought; "Man, I'm bored. Why am I doing this work; I'm not doing it very well; what does it matter any way ... man, I'm bored." In comparison I was very active in sports: baseball, football, basketball. Admittedly sports came naturally to me and I was motivated to excel.
My biggest fear for my children is that they will struggle like I did. Fortunately they've all done really well, though we have had some struggles with my oldest who just started high school. His issue is getting overwhelmed too easily. We've helped him through it and he graduated 8th grade on the honor role.
In all honesty I would ask if you really know what your son's interests are? As a boy my true interests were often misunderstood or dismissed (sob story that Mormon Red Death will tease me about). I have 4 siblings all of which excelled in school and are now respectively: a doctor, lawyer, nurse, hospital administrator. I'm an artist and I live in Canada!
I'm not suggesting you are neglecting your son, or haven't listened etc.; or even that he's an artist that is going to move to Canada :p I'm simply suggesting that maybe the current social and educational environment he is in is mostly geared to producing lawyers or doctors or businessman and perhaps your son does not see himself as one of those things ... and if he is not one of those things he likely feels there's no hope, so why bother.
*yes, I'm relying on BarbaraGordon's * shtick
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