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Originally Posted by TripletDaddy
What exactly do you learn as a single unmarried person from 25-35 that then makes you a better potential spouse?
Marriages generally succeed or fail based on the selfishness/selflessness of both parties.
Hanging around another 6 or so years won't make you less selfish.
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I don't know so much 30-35, but I think that 25-30 is the first time most of us become financially stable for the first time (most marriages break up over money if I believe what I'm told) and when the first fully formed version of you that has some idea what he wants his life to look like emerges. I'm not sure it makes you a better spouse, it just gives you a chance to make a better choice and avoid the main issue that marriages end over.
I agree with you that selflessness is the key, along with shared values, commitment and community. I don't know too many marriages that have broken up simply because an immature selection was made by a person who reaches maturity and realizes the error. More often it is because one or both people are selfish in some way.