[Archaea]

My main concern for bf is not whether he gets his stuff but whether he will become a pariah, or spend his next months in the mission hellhole.

A personal aside. A daughter had made the volleyball team one year but failed to play much. This concerned as one time, she cried, "I didn't even get to help us lose."

So father took matters into her own hands, and wrote principal, wanting a meeting with the coach, being kind, polite but frank and direct. Apparently the coach got the message.

Daughter decided never again to tell parents about lack of playing time, as apparently the coach was none too pleased. Lesson learned.