[Archaea]

See I disagree with this interview approach whatsoever.

If you wish to develop a relationship, you watch how your children's fiances and fiancees treat your children. You teach children good principles and you talk to them in a casual fashion, determining what the ability of the prospective mate to provide or to support the child, and whether that person communicates, has good family and good job prospects through normal discussion.

My job is not to intimidate them but to make them feel at ease and comfortable as my child has already made a decision so I can either be involved or not. The meeting is a means to become involved and connected.