[UtahDan]

I remember him telling me that the Stake President shared with the that the church had given a directive that the oral sex question was not to be asked in recommend interviews or in other contexts.

The stake presdient then told the bishops that this would not be the case in THEIR stake and that they were to continue to ask that question. My father asked for clarification in that meeting that the new policy applied to every stake but ours and the stake president simply reiterated his position on this.
I believe he was a brand new bishop at the time and IIRC he told me that he never asked that question and wouldn't have regardless.

Another funny story from my father: when he was bishop a relatively young couple came in seeking clarification as to whether they could "take off" their garments during sex. My father's reply was "you can take them off or you can tear them off."

A few of you here know him and might find that amusing.