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Archaea · 05-12-2010, 03:36 PM

of marrying a gay guy?

In perusing Mormon fora, one occasionally encounters the post that some woman married a gay man. And when the circumstances are further described, the woman stated he was so nice and polite and never asked to kiss. With Mormon emphasis on premarital chastity, does our cultural emphasis de-emphasize physical affection to a point some segment of our society of woman are desensitized to this tell tale sign that something isn't right in the relationship?

Of course, I have no data regarding the incidence of this event, but wondered if it were a downside of no premarital affection.

MikeWaters · 05-12-2010, 07:44 PM

yes, some women are naive.

Archaea · 05-12-2010, 08:10 PM

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Originally Posted by MikeWaters

yes, some women are naive.

Is it a real problem that exists in significant numbers? I know of no gay Mormons per se.

So what percentage of gay men actually try to marry and have a family? Do you have any reasonable sense of the incidence?

MikeWaters · 05-12-2010, 08:19 PM

I am sure there are many more Mormon girls who are banging boyfriends, versus chaste ones who are marrying gay dudes.

I know a guy from BYU who was married while at BYU, and divorced also while at BYU. He is now a rainbow warrior with a bosom pal, attending "Madge" concerts.

I imagine that the divorce could have involved some sexual orientation issues, but I don't know that for sure.

Archaea · 05-12-2010, 10:38 PM

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Originally Posted by MikeWaters

I am sure there are many more Mormon girls who are banging boyfriends, versus chaste ones who are marrying gay dudes.

I know a guy from BYU who was married while at BYU, and divorced also while at BYU. He is now a rainbow warrior with a bosom pal, attending "Madge" concerts.

I imagine that the divorce could have involved some sexual orientation issues, but I don't know that for sure.

I don't doubt that probability. Just wondered if the numbers of naive ones are significant.

SeattleUte · 05-12-2010, 11:03 PM

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Originally Posted by MikeWaters

I am sure there are many more Mormon girls who are banging boyfriends, versus chaste ones who are marrying gay dudes.

I know a guy from BYU who was married while at BYU, and divorced also while at BYU. He is now a rainbow warrior with a bosom pal, attending "Madge" concerts.

I imagine that the divorce could have involved some sexual orientation issues, but I don't know that for sure.

How about chaste ones marrying straight dudes? Can you give us a breakdown of the three categories? Pie chart?

Archaea · 05-12-2010, 11:26 PM

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Originally Posted by SeattleUte

How about chaste ones marrying straight dudes? Can you give us a breakdown of the three categories? Pie chart?

Chastity in some Mormon women is not a problem most of the time, sometimes even after marriage. And some who taste of the fruit, revert to secondary virginity rituals.

RedHeadGal · 05-19-2010, 03:48 PM

You seem to be suggesting that Mormon women are vulnerable beacause of chastity boundaries. In my experience, a woman can can tell whether her suitor is physically aroused long before any chastity boundaries are crossed. I also dare say that it is a slim minority of Americans who marry without feeling attraction for and from their mate, regardless of how deep the sexual experimentation has gone.

Having said that, I do believe gay men marry in the Mormon community. Whether they are divulge that to their potential mate. . . I sort of doubt it. I makes me sad to think of the woman who would agree to marry a man who is gay. And it makes me sad to think the men would marry without telling their intended. So it's bad either way.

05-12-2010, 03:36 PM	#1
Archaea Assistant to the Regional Manager Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: The Orgasmatron Posts: 24,338	Are Mormon women at risk? of marrying a gay guy? In perusing Mormon fora, one occasionally encounters the post that some woman married a gay man. And when the circumstances are further described, the woman stated he was so nice and polite and never asked to kiss. With Mormon emphasis on premarital chastity, does our cultural emphasis de-emphasize physical affection to a point some segment of our society of woman are desensitized to this tell tale sign that something isn't right in the relationship? Of course, I have no data regarding the incidence of this event, but wondered if it were a downside of no premarital affection. __________________ Ἓν οἶδα ὅτι οὐδὲν οἶδα

05-12-2010, 07:44 PM	#2
MikeWaters Demiurge Join Date: Aug 2005 Posts: 36,365	yes, some women are naive.

05-12-2010, 08:19 PM	#4
MikeWaters Demiurge Join Date: Aug 2005 Posts: 36,365	I am sure there are many more Mormon girls who are banging boyfriends, versus chaste ones who are marrying gay dudes. I know a guy from BYU who was married while at BYU, and divorced also while at BYU. He is now a rainbow warrior with a bosom pal, attending "Madge" concerts. I imagine that the divorce could have involved some sexual orientation issues, but I don't know that for sure.

05-19-2010, 03:48 PM	#8
RedHeadGal Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: DC Posts: 995	You seem to be suggesting that Mormon women are vulnerable beacause of chastity boundaries. In my experience, a woman can can tell whether her suitor is physically aroused long before any chastity boundaries are crossed. I also dare say that it is a slim minority of Americans who marry without feeling attraction for and from their mate, regardless of how deep the sexual experimentation has gone. Having said that, I do believe gay men marry in the Mormon community. Whether they are divulge that to their potential mate. . . I sort of doubt it. I makes me sad to think of the woman who would agree to marry a man who is gay. And it makes me sad to think the men would marry without telling their intended. So it's bad either way.