Racism

[FMCoug]

Scenario: Highy educated urban Jew from NYC falls in love with and decides to marry a redneck Baptist from the deep south. Someone in the position to counsel them (parent, clergy, etc.) cautions them that their different cultural backgrounds will put extra strain on their marriage and advises against it.

Is the counselor a racist? (Both are caucasion in this instance)

[MikeWaters]

Originally Posted by FMCoug

Scenario: Highy educated urban Jew from NYC falls in love with and decides to marry a redneck Baptist from the deep south. Someone in the position to counsel them (parent, clergy, etc.) cautions them that their different cultural backgrounds will put extra strain on their marriage and advises against it.

Is the counselor a racist? (Both are caucasion in this instance)

I can tell you that no good therapist would do as you say. Therapists aren't in the business of telling people what to do. They help the person explore the decision, and ultimately the person makes the decision.

Let me repeat your scenario a different way: these same two people fall in love and decide to marry. Friends, family, clergy tell each of them they have made a bad decision and should not go through with it. How useful is that?

[FMCoug]

Originally Posted by MikeWaters

I can tell you that no good therapist would do as you say. Therapists aren't in the business of telling people what to do. They help the person explore the decision, and ultimately the person makes the decision.

Let me repeat your scenario a different way: these same two people fall in love and decide to marry. Friends, family, clergy tell each of them they have made a bad decision and should not go through with it. How useful is that?

Fine. They don't counsel them that way, but they that's what they believe. Are they racist?

[MikeWaters]

Originally Posted by FMCoug

Fine. They don't counsel them that way, but they that's what they believe. Are they racist?

to advise deep-sixing the marriage solely based on the one sentence worth of information implies to me that they are bigots. People who can't see past the exterior, and only see the cultural tropes and stereotypes that they have been taught. My opinion.

[FMCoug]

Originally Posted by MikeWaters

to advise deep-sixing the marriage solely based on the one sentence worth of information implies to me that they are bigots. People who can't see past the exterior, and only see the cultural tropes and stereotypes that they have been taught. My opinion.

Bigotry I can buy. My point is that the term "racism" is misused more often than not.

[MikeWaters]

Originally Posted by FMCoug

Bigotry I can buy. My point is that the term "racism" is misused more often than not.

is this thread for Lingo or something? T blue?

You could have simply linked to the definition of racism.

[FMCoug]

Originally Posted by MikeWaters

You could have simply linked to the definition of racism.

In the other thread you said (or I misunderstood you to say) that you considered someone who gave counsel to avoid marrying across cultural groups a racist. Bigot, maybe. Racist, no.

[Tex]

Originally Posted by FMCoug

Scenario: Highy educated urban Jew from NYC falls in love with and decides to marry a redneck Baptist from the deep south. Someone in the position to counsel them (parent, clergy, etc.) cautions them that their different cultural backgrounds will put extra strain on their marriage and advises against it.

Is the counselor a racist? (Both are caucasion in this instance)

Did the counselor teach them the hand motions to Book of Mormon Stories?

[jay santos]

Originally Posted by FMCoug

Bigotry I can buy. My point is that the term "racism" is misused more often than not.

MW was referring to mixed race couples in that thread. But nice job snaring him in the racism/bigotry trap you set. Brilliant.