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02-27-2008, 04:02 PM | #1 |
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I worry for my daughter
She's got some time before she'd be the right age, but I'm not so sure I want her hearing some of the lessons written for LDS young women.
Compare, for instance, these two lessons on marriage. This one, directed towards Young Men, talks about choosing an Eternal Companion. (active voice, implies agency) http://www.lds.org/ldsorg/v/index.js...ontentLocale=0 The most comparable YW lesson is entitled Preparing to become an eternal companion. (passive voice, limited agency) http://www.lds.org/ldsorg/v/index.js...ontentLocale=0 There are lots of interesting comparisons to be made. I offer just a couple of points: For the males, one of the things they can do to become a good marriage partner is, "Becoming educated or trained in order to be a good provider." For the females, it's almost all about homemaking. There are a couple of allusions to higher education, but the allusions encourage females to gain knowledge, training, and skills that will help them with mothering and homemaking. Even the introductory story about the girl who comes home to spend Christmas vacation fails to say "she was at college." There's nothing wrong with being a good homemaker or having child psychology skills (I wish I had them). There is something wrong with not encouraging our young women to seek educational and professional fulfillment, should they so desire. I know there are quotes aplenty, especially from Golden Boy Hinckley about women getting educations - and I applaud them - but as long as this type of bias permeates the instruction manuals (which many say are next to scripture in import and inspiration) I'm going to be leery. My friends with girls this age say they often come home from church and "undo" what's been taught, using the opportunity to teach the girls to think for themselves and not believe everything they hear. Great, but that's a silver lining in a really dark cloud (IMO). Those of you with daughters, is this an issue? How have you dealt with it? [This is my 1,000th post. Hooray for me.]
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Teach her otherwise and she'll overcome those biases. No need to worry, except if you teach her those preferences she may resent the cultural preferences.
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02-27-2008, 04:07 PM | #3 |
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Maybe the lesson manuals have yet to catch up to the present-day teachings. I'm not sure anything moves slower in the church than curricula.
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Except the clock during High Council talks in Sacrament meeting.
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02-27-2008, 04:14 PM | #5 |
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My home is the primary place for instruction of this sort. Church is secondary, and this has been reality for my son from day one.
I'm hoping this will help.
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Actually, here is the lesson that should worry you:
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That lessens the impact of something that really is sick. |
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Was this tieing up thing suggested by the manual, or the teachers idea. If it was in the manual, then I still don't see it as sick, but it is pretty good proof that all things that come out of SLC don't meet the, "it isn't silly" test. |
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I think your inference is pretty reasonable. I didn't bring it up as an example of the "manuals are clearly evil and sending subversive messages." Rather it is most consistent that at least sometimes the manuals are silly and clearly could use some updating and overhaul. Last edited by pelagius; 02-28-2008 at 06:27 PM. |
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