Help for Sex-Starved Wives

[tooblue]

http://www.time.com/time/health/arti...728520,00.html

So much for Archaea's lamenting and the MASP label ... it's as much a problem with men as women.

[Archaea]

Originally Posted by tooblue

http://www.time.com/time/health/arti...728520,00.html

So much for Archaea's lamenting and the MASP label ... it's as much a problem with men as women.

Where in the article is it articulated that the problem is equivalent for women?

[tooblue]

Originally Posted by Archaea

Where in the article is it articulated that the problem is equivalent for women?

"Unless they get help, they often can. The other thing that happens is the person with the higher desire just lives their life in lonely misery. More men than women complain about not getting enough sex, [but] the difference between the two genders is not nearly as great as the general public believes. Low desire in men has got to be America's best-kept secret.

I teamed up with Redbook magazine to survey women about what goes on behind closed bedroom doors. Over 1,000 women responded, [and] 60% of them reported that they wanted at least as much, if not more, sex than their husbands. What was also interesting, but not surprising, is that the vast majority of men who experienced low sexual desire were completely unwilling to talk with their wives, go to a doctor or go to a therapist. In a culture that equates masculinity with virility, it's no wonder that these guys are tight-lipped.

So, what happens in these marriages is that women feel exasperated because they are incredibly lonely. They feel isolated. When someone is more highly sexed, the person who has less desire really thinks it's just about having an orgasm. [But] to the more highly sexed spouse, it is truly about feeling wanted and loved and emotionally connected."

[Archaea]

I don't believe it. And that evidence doesn't sound like a peer reviewable study. But okay, she said it.

[landpoke]

Originally Posted by tooblue

"Unless they get help, they often can. The other thing that happens is the person with the higher desire just lives their life in lonely misery. More men than women complain about not getting enough sex, [but] the difference between the two genders is not nearly as great as the general public believes. Low desire in men has got to be America's best-kept secret.

I teamed up with Redbook magazine to survey women about what goes on behind closed bedroom doors. Over 1,000 women responded, [and] 60% of them reported that they wanted at least as much, if not more, sex than their husbands. What was also interesting, but not surprising, is that the vast majority of men who experienced low sexual desire were completely unwilling to talk with their wives, go to a doctor or go to a therapist. In a culture that equates masculinity with virility, it's no wonder that these guys are tight-lipped.

So, what happens in these marriages is that women feel exasperated because they are incredibly lonely. They feel isolated. When someone is more highly sexed, the person who has less desire really thinks it's just about having an orgasm. [But] to the more highly sexed spouse, it is truly about feeling wanted and loved and emotionally connected."

Yeah well, besides that quote where does it say that? I got your back Arch.

[Archaea]

Originally Posted by landpoke

Yeah well, besides that quote where does it say that? I got your back Arch.

I've seen a load of studies and this is the first "discussion point" where it has ever been mentioned that women are sex starved. As MRD says, BS!

A guy would have sex every day, morning and night. Not true for loads of women, especially those bitter things called "older-than-forty-year-olds".

[Spaz]

Originally Posted by Archaea

I've seen a load of studies and this is the first "discussion point" where it has ever been mentioned that women are sex starved. As MRD says, BS!

A guy would have sex every day, morning and night. Not true for loads of women, especially those bitter things called "older-than-forty-year-olds".

I know of a few guys that don't enjoy sex, and whose wives would be thrilled to have sex more than a handful of times a year.

A friend of mine told me once he's perfectly happy not having sex. I know that's not quite the same thing as being unwilling to do it, but it still shows there's differences in the libidos of different men.


In short, I don't think it's a cut-and-dry "All men would have sex as often as their wives want it." Nor do I think 60% of wives have a hard time getting their men into the sack for some R&R.

[Spaz]

Originally Posted by Spaz

I know of a few guys that don't enjoy sex, and whose wives would be thrilled to have sex more than a handful of times a year.

A friend of mine told me once he's perfectly happy not having sex. I know that's not quite the same thing as being unwilling to do it, but it still shows there's differences in the libidos of different men.


In short, I don't think it's a cut-and-dry "All men would have sex as often as their wives want it." Nor do I think 60% of wives have a hard time getting their men into the sack for some R&R.

In fact, I'd be willing to bet that if the average man would stop masturbating to porn all the time, that very few women would have issues with sexual frequency.

[Archaea]

Originally Posted by Spaz

I know of a few guys that don't enjoy sex, and whose wives would be thrilled to have sex more than a handful of times a year.

A friend of mine told me once he's perfectly happy not having sex. I know that's not quite the same thing as being unwilling to do it, but it still shows there's differences in the libidos of different men.


In short, I don't think it's a cut-and-dry "All men would have sex as often as their wives want it." Nor do I think 60% of wives have a hard time getting their men into the sack for some R&R.

I've never such men. They must be gay men. Or old and tired.

Now the price of sex is high, so some may think, "hell, at this cost I can satisfy myself for free." At some point, even the finer things in life are too pricey. I'd love to have a Murcielago, but not at the price for which they sell.

[Spaz]

Originally Posted by Archaea

I've never such men. They must be gay men. Or old and tired.

Now the price of sex is high, so some may think, "hell, at this cost I can satisfy myself for free." At some point, even the finer things in life are too pricey. I'd love to have a Murcielago, but not at the price for which they sell.

The idea that all men have exactly identical libidos is ludicrous. Testosterone-level disorders, for one, would have a serious affect on one's drive. Check this out.

Similarly, a friend of my parent's actually got divorced because his wife was requiring sex 5-6 times a day, and the guy was literally being sexed to death. Meanwhile, the average woman truly desires sex what? Once a week, tops?


Personally, I don't think I'd enjoy having sex 3+ times every day.