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Mrs. Funk · 11-02-2007, 04:21 AM

so completely retarded about major holidays? They are already offended that we can't make it home for Thanksgiving (I'm a first year law student... and will be getting ready for finals... but this is immaterial to them) and that the cheapest tickets back home we can find have us back in my hometown at 9 PM Christmas Day. My dad is throwing a hissyfit that we might miss Christmas Day, the first time I haven't been around to open presents with them.

We're broke newlyweds! What do they want? The earlier flight costs twice as much! We're not trying to break the family or say that we hate them. We're already taking a full week to spend with them. Funk is taking a week off of work so he can sleep in his in-law's basement while his wife gets criticized for being a slothful, worthless waste of skin daughter.

It's always been this way. I can never do anything right. I'm never considerate enough. I'm a big selfish oaf. I should just give up now.

il Padrino Ute · 11-02-2007, 04:35 AM

My advice:

Call your parents and tell them that you are no longer their little girl, but a married woman going to law school who is trying to start her own life with her husband.

If that doesn't work, tell them that if they want you and mpfunk there, they'll have to pay for all the travel expenses.

If that doesn't work, have mpfunk let me know your address and I'll send you one of my Christmas letters to send to your parents and you can sign it and make it from you.

YOhio · 11-02-2007, 04:43 AM

They sound controlling, but I'm sure they love you. Good luck with that.

Mrs. Funk · 11-02-2007, 04:54 AM

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Originally Posted by YOhio

They sound controlling, but I'm sure they love you. Good luck with that.

I asked Mr. Funk if my parents can be controlling... and he paused... swallowed awkwardly... and replied, "Ummmm... yeah... they can be a little controlling."

Nuff said.

BYU71 · 11-02-2007, 02:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Mrs. Funk

I asked Mr. Funk if my parents can be controlling... and he paused... swallowed awkwardly... and replied, "Ummmm... yeah... they can be a little controlling."

Nuff said.

Mr Funk is a genius. My ex had a controlling mother like no other, the therapist called her one in a million. I am sure your folks are in the minor, minor leagues compared to her.

However, I grew up in the church in the fifties and sixties. The man was in charge and leave your parents and cleave unto each other meant something.

As the manly man I was and with the churches stand on "man is head of household", instead of Mr Funks approach, my approach was, you dang frickin rights she's controlling and I will put a stop to it. 13 year battle between Mom and husband ensued and I lost out.

Of course so did the 2 subsequent guys she married and my guess is the guy she is marrying today will too.

Oh, I don't have any advice for you, but good luck.

Sleeping in EQ · 11-02-2007, 03:09 PM

Whatever you do, don't try to put Mr. Funk in the middle.

Mrs. Funk · 11-02-2007, 03:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Sleeping in EQ

Whatever you do, don't try to put Mr. Funk in the middle.

I totally agree. It's not his fight. It's just frustrating because we're doing the best we can. I'm the oldest, and my parents are far from being understanding that we might not be there at 6:30 AM for Present Unwrapping Bacchanalia.

ute4ever · 11-02-2007, 03:18 PM

As a fresh new law student, here is your chance to put your new skills to use and probe your parents to find out what their true concern is. It could be that they recently went through the emotional experience of losing their baby to marriage, and now they are afraid of not getting you every holiday season.

Once you know where they are coming from, mediation and negotiation should be a snap, because as their daughter, you have tons of leverage!

Mrs. Funk · 11-02-2007, 03:40 PM

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Originally Posted by ute4ever

As a fresh new law student, here is your chance to put your new skills to use and probe your parents to find out what their true concern is. It could be that they recently went through the emotional experience of losing their baby to marriage, and now they are afraid of not getting you every holiday season.

Once you know where they are coming from, mediation and negotiation should be a snap, because as their daughter, you have tons of leverage!

I'm almost positive that it's exacerbated by the recent "loss" they sustained through my marriage, but they've always been insane about "Family comes first" since before I can remember. Thing is, they have to remember that Mr. Funk's family comes first, too, now, and we have to balance between the two families.

By the way, I just got a slightly tart email from my mom saying they're *sigh* willing to work with what we need to do. They're also suggesting we drive from Utah to Washington in the middle of December. Riiiiiiiiiight...

jay santos · 11-02-2007, 03:57 PM

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Originally Posted by Sleeping in EQ

Whatever you do, don't try to put Mr. Funk in the middle.

Amen. Which is probably impossible.

11-02-2007, 04:21 AM	#1
Mrs. Funk Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 367	Why are my parents so completely retarded about major holidays? They are already offended that we can't make it home for Thanksgiving (I'm a first year law student... and will be getting ready for finals... but this is immaterial to them) and that the cheapest tickets back home we can find have us back in my hometown at 9 PM Christmas Day. My dad is throwing a hissyfit that we might miss Christmas Day, the first time I haven't been around to open presents with them. We're broke newlyweds! What do they want? The earlier flight costs twice as much! We're not trying to break the family or say that we hate them. We're already taking a full week to spend with them. Funk is taking a week off of work so he can sleep in his in-law's basement while his wife gets criticized for being a slothful, worthless waste of skin daughter. It's always been this way. I can never do anything right. I'm never considerate enough. I'm a big selfish oaf. I should just give up now.

11-02-2007, 04:35 AM	#2
il Padrino Ute Board Pinhead Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: In the basement of my house, Murray, Utah. Posts: 15,941	My advice: Call your parents and tell them that you are no longer their little girl, but a married woman going to law school who is trying to start her own life with her husband. If that doesn't work, tell them that if they want you and mpfunk there, they'll have to pay for all the travel expenses. If that doesn't work, have mpfunk let me know your address and I'll send you one of my Christmas letters to send to your parents and you can sign it and make it from you. __________________ "The beauty of baseball is not having to explain it." - Chuck Shriver "This is now the joke that stupid people laugh at." - Christopher Hitchens on IQ jokes about GWB.

11-02-2007, 03:09 PM	#6
Sleeping in EQ Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: The People's Republic of Monsanto Posts: 3,085	Whatever you do, don't try to put Mr. Funk in the middle. __________________ "Do not despise the words of prophets, but test everything; hold fast to what is good; " 1 Thess. 5:21 (NRSV) We all trust our own unorthodoxies.

11-02-2007, 04:43 AM	#3
YOhio AKA SeattleNewt Join Date: Jan 2006 Posts: 7,055	They sound controlling, but I'm sure they love you. Good luck with that.

11-02-2007, 03:18 PM	#8
ute4ever I must not tell lies Join Date: Aug 2005 Posts: 5,103	As a fresh new law student, here is your chance to put your new skills to use and probe your parents to find out what their true concern is. It could be that they recently went through the emotional experience of losing their baby to marriage, and now they are afraid of not getting you every holiday season. Once you know where they are coming from, mediation and negotiation should be a snap, because as their daughter, you have tons of leverage!