11-02-2007, 02:59 PM | #11 | |
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However, I grew up in the church in the fifties and sixties. The man was in charge and leave your parents and cleave unto each other meant something. As the manly man I was and with the churches stand on "man is head of household", instead of Mr Funks approach, my approach was, you dang frickin rights she's controlling and I will put a stop to it. 13 year battle between Mom and husband ensued and I lost out. Of course so did the 2 subsequent guys she married and my guess is the guy she is marrying today will too. Oh, I don't have any advice for you, but good luck. |
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11-02-2007, 03:09 PM | #12 |
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Whatever you do, don't try to put Mr. Funk in the middle.
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11-02-2007, 03:12 PM | #13 |
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I totally agree. It's not his fight. It's just frustrating because we're doing the best we can. I'm the oldest, and my parents are far from being understanding that we might not be there at 6:30 AM for Present Unwrapping Bacchanalia.
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11-02-2007, 03:18 PM | #14 |
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As a fresh new law student, here is your chance to put your new skills to use and probe your parents to find out what their true concern is. It could be that they recently went through the emotional experience of losing their baby to marriage, and now they are afraid of not getting you every holiday season.
Once you know where they are coming from, mediation and negotiation should be a snap, because as their daughter, you have tons of leverage! |
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My parents are good people. I hope people don't interpret this rant as my not loving and appreciating them. They (like all parents) can be a little unreasonable about what their married child can reasonably do given airfare prices and in-law familial obligations, too. |
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11-02-2007, 03:33 PM | #16 |
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11-02-2007, 03:40 PM | #17 | |
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By the way, I just got a slightly tart email from my mom saying they're *sigh* willing to work with what we need to do. They're also suggesting we drive from Utah to Washington in the middle of December. Riiiiiiiiiight... |
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11-02-2007, 03:41 PM | #18 |
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As a note I have always lived at least 2,000 miles away from one set of parents for my entire married life ... it only gets easier when you set the ground rules as the adult in the relationship. |
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