06-24-2008, 01:31 PM | #11 |
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Yes, but not all children are the same. We are all born with a unique temperment. A parent can't gag and hog-tie a kid to go to church. A parent can take away every privilege possible if the kid refuses to cooperate, but even with every privilege stripped away some kids will still choose to rebel.
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To me there is a huge difference between the words "encourage" or "support". If a child of mine in early adulthood, say 18 decided to be inactive, I would support the decision. I wouldn't make any idle threats. I would encourage them to return to activity only vocally and only when the child opened up the opportunity to do so. I believe the more you press the issue the more the child will harden their position and perhaps lock the door to future activity. |
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Makes me wonder what other types of decisions some parents leave to their kids. School attendance? Homework? Health care? Hygeine? Step up and be the parent for crying out loud. We tell our kids that they have their free agency about church. They can attend happily or unhappily.
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You judge these parents harshly, but is it really fair? I bet you probably wouldn't harshly judge the family in my home ward whose daughter committed suicide, who was disturbed, angry, and unhappy. The better question for the title of this thread, is how do you deal with a child who is bent on destroying a family, for reasons that are unfathomable. |
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Now there may be extreme examples, as I've read a few of the foster children horror stories, but it is extremely anomalous for an 11 year old to be able to be that disruptive.
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I do agree with you it is all to easy to look at a situation and say where the parents screwed up. It is like calling a play on the football field, choosing to fight in Iraq, etc. When the results of a decision become apparent, it is all too easy to sit back and tell the decision maker what the decision should have been. Especially when we don't know what the alternative decision would have brought. |
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06-24-2008, 02:49 PM | #18 |
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71, it was their oldest child.
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Those who even at young age, torture animals, siblings and themselves. Who threaten and nearly kill neighbor children. Like it or not, there are a few people who are just bad from the start.
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