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Like i said, i just cant think of anything they can do that will make me want to hit them. The other night my son was in his room at night crying. He is 3.5. I went in to ask him what was wrong. I call him 'Goby," which is a rad nickname. Anyway, so i said, "what's wrong Goby? what are you crying?" He said, "Because I'm scared, daddy. I dont like being scared." We never figured out why he was scared and he eventually went back to bed, but I learned a very important lesson. Even the smallest of children are able to feel fear and articulate it. They grasp the concept of menacing behavior at a very young age, but lack the experience to process it in any meaningful context. there was no reason for him to feel fear, but he did, and it really upset him. If I hit my kids, they will be scared, they will feel fear, but they will NOT be able to reason and say, "hey, daddy has a point there...I deserve this treatment." So why would I hit them? No thanks.
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The goal is the same as any other form of discipline. I don't know what your definition of spanking is, but I'm not talking about wailing on a kid as hard as you can. Geez....
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I've spanked my kids before, but it's been a few years, and I wish that I hadn't.
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There are ways of being disciplined that do not involve force or fear. If that concept is foreign to you, then something's up.
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My son, if I get stern with him, will cry and come over for a hug. Other times, he will just scream for a couple of seconds, but he doesn't go back to what he was doing.
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What is the point of discipline? For me it is two fold. One, it is punishment for misbehaving, and two it is hopefully a deterrent against future misbehaving. How can a punishment deter future misbehaving if there is no fear component involved? |
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