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I would expect that porn addiction would be more likely in someone less able to sustain an actual physical relationship. One can control the porn, need not perform for the porn, need not be able to deal with real human issues for the porn, etc. Consequently, I don't think that a spouse could fix a porn addiction by having more or wilder or whatever sex with the porn addict. The problem isn't sex, it's that the addict prefers a mediated fantasy where s/he is in control and doesn't have to deal with a person (and therefore, with himself or herself). Sex is about intimacy (or at least shared interest). Porn is about alienation. A possible connection between porn and adultery would be someone paying for sex, as that wouldn't require a relationship either. There could be a correlation between porn addiction and prostitution. I have next to zero experience with porn and no interest in it whatsoever. I wish others would leave it alone so I wouldn't have to hear about it so often at Church.
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His observation = naivety. ESPECIALLY in a Singles Ward.
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Ahh, I always wondered what the academic term for "looking at porn" was.
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Has anyone else ever noticed that a person who looks at porn once or twice a month is often termed a "porn addict" in Mormon culture?
In my opinion, a porn addict is a person whose normal social interactions or work and other responsibilities are impaired because of a compulsion to look at porn daily (or almost daily). The missionary in my mission who carried suitcase full of porn magazines with him everywhere--now that's an addict. On a side note, my dad has been forced to fire lots of government employees in Utah who would stay late at work to look at porn, or come into work on the weekends to view porn. His workplace has a zero tolerance rule on pornography (and this rule was not made by him). Almost all of the "porn viewers" were young, married, active LDS BYU graduates with a couple of kids. Outside of Mormonism, these guys would watch porn at home. Inside Mormonism, men watch it at work in order to hide it from their wives. (I'm not saying that one scenario is better than the other. It's just an observation that may be relevant to this discussion.)
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I know of three people who are or were in my ward in the last two years who committed adultery. Two while they were in the ward, and one who did prior to moving in. Two of these I learned of only because their spouses consulted my firm (not me) about potential divorce - the other I was consulted by an attorney friend because the other woman was considering a fraud action against the adulterer.
Given that I've learned only by virtual chance of these, I think it's highly likely there are other cases within my ward that I haven't learned of.
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I've looked at media effects in the famous War of the Worlds broadcast, and I've coded ads for both violence and gender stereotyping. There are those who research porn, though.
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I also want to make it clear that I believe porn is wrong and dangerous but I have seen more problems with the other. Last edited by RC Vikings; 07-07-2007 at 03:42 AM. |
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I also have a good friend who is a full time therapist up here in SLC dealing with the same addictions, porn also included and his comments contradicts your friends.
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