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I got married at 26 and that was the perfect age for me. I was able to finish school and get established in a career path before my wife and I met. Having said that, while I was going through the singledom in my early 20s, I wanted to be married, but I am glad that I wasn't married any earlier than I was.
I feel like the church culture has backed off of the whole marraige thing a little bit...just in terms of forcing it down singles' throats. Maybe I just don't run in those circles anymore, but my ward was pretty good about it. Now, on a case by case basis, who knows what kind of pressures singles get from parents, friends, aunts, uncles etc. |
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I think there are people here who already know it. More I cannot say.
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I've never meet a mullah type that was sad he married early. Most are just happy to be having sex with anybody. I honestly admire those guys that marry early, have three kids before they're 25 and have a wife that's gained about 75 pounds and still seem like they are happy because that's what they want and planned for.
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TD, Black Diamond Bay has estimated that 80% of all married LDS males are unhappy. I consider her an unimpeachable source. Her data base seems to be incidence of married LDS males who flirt with her.
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If you don't have regrets or feel you've missed anything then you've answered my question. Also, if it appears I'm devaluing your decisions I apologize, I tried to keep judgment out of the process because, as I've stated multiple times, what's right for you isn't necessarily right for me.
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I felt some pressure from church members as I got older, but only a handful of times was it bothersome. Oh, and it was just before we got married that I decided to go back and get a PhD, so I got married late, but didn't even "finish my education". |
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I was simply pointing out that they way it was framed seemed to predispose all answers in a certain direction. For my part, married at 25 and don't feel like I missed out on much. If I were to have married a year after my mission, i would have missed out on a lot of fun undergrad memories, for sure.
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Damn, I tried to avoid that.
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