Am I unreasonable?

[woot]

Originally Posted by Burning Bright

I'm not trolling and I don't see any humor here at all. I just wanted to see what the consensus was and I must say that I'm suprised. You all sound just like my daughter's principal. I'm SHOCKED that nobody sees my point of view and agrees with me.

As for my use of the word intimate, I'll paste from dictionary.com below:

Dictionary.com Unabridged (v 1.1) -
in·ti·mate1 [in-tuh-mit]

–adjective 1. associated in close personal relations: an intimate friend.
2. characterized by or involving warm friendship or a personally close or familiar association or feeling: an intimate greeting.
3. very private; closely personal: one's intimate affairs.
4. characterized by or suggesting privacy or intimacy; warmly cozy: an intimate little café.
5. (of an association, knowledge, understanding, etc.) arising from close personal connection or familiar experience.
6. engaged in or characterized by sexual relations.
7. (of clothing) worn next to the skin, under street or outer garments: intimate apparel.
8. detailed; deep: a more intimate analysis.
9. showing a close union or combination of particles or elements: an intimate mixture.
10. inmost; deep within.
11. of, pertaining to, or characteristic of the inmost or essential nature; intrinsic: the intimate structure of an organism.
12. of, pertaining to, or existing in the inmost depths of the mind: intimate beliefs.
–noun 13. an intimate friend or associate, esp. a confidant.

Ok, I'm back. I'm using the word as used in the first 5 definitions. It doesn't even refer to sexuality until definition 6.

I'm just saying that I want my daughter to behave and dress like a lady and to have definate boundaries with the opposite sex until she's married. I don't want her to be casual about stuff like that. Am not worried about her when she's 5, I'm training her in proper behavior now for when she's 16.

Aren't there enough teen pregnancies and STDs in world? There's nothing wrong with having boundaries.

Check definition #7 and then realize you're using the wrong word. It's very clear from your original post what your concern is. It's fine having boundaries, but this one seems quite silly and potentially harmful. Your association of pajamas and teen pregnancy/STDs makes me wonder about your mental health.

[Burning Bright]

Originally Posted by Mrs. Funk

I'm sorry, I just don't believe that you aren't using this to deter your daughter from projected sexual promiscuity, if you are being serious. What type of trouble are you worried about her getting into if not that of "getting too close" to members of the opposite sex in some kind of sexual way?

I DO want to deter my daughter from sexual promiscuity. Very much so. I prefer her to be chaste.

I want her to have boundaries that will assist her in being chaste.

[Burning Bright]

Originally Posted by TripletDaddy

How do you feel about Sock Hops?

Good question. They don't bother me. Under the logic I've stated, maybe they should. But they don't.

[TripletDaddy]

Originally Posted by Burning Bright

I want her to have boundaries that will assist her in being chaste.

Whoops! IxNay on the Museum of Sex, then.

I thought you were just looking for a good museum.

Sorry.

PS If you do decide to go another time, it is on 5th Avenue in Manhattan.

[woot]

Originally Posted by Burning Bright

In some cultures. Not in mine. I like the 3 steps thing but I could never get my wife to buy into it.

So do you think it's fine that Muslims treat their women like cattle? The point of that sentiment was that the goal of preventing women from having premarital sex can lead to some extremely stupid practices. You might want to consider how important that goal is, how much control you actually have over that goal, and how far you are willing to go to enforce it.

[Mrs. Funk]

Originally Posted by Burning Bright

I DO want to deter my daughter from sexual promiscuity. Very much so. I prefer her to be chaste.

I want her to have boundaries that will assist her in being chaste.

Right. So, call this what it is. You're keeping your 5-year-old from wearing pajamas to kindergarten because you think it help will keep her from potential sexual promiscuity.

[TripletDaddy]

Originally Posted by Burning Bright

Good question. They don't bother me. Under the logic I've stated, maybe they should. But they don't.

Hypocrite!

[creekster]

Originally Posted by TripletDaddy

Whoops! IxNay on the Museum of Sex, then.

I thought you were just looking for a good museum.

Sorry.

PS If you do decide to go another time, it is on 5th Avenue in Manhattan.

5th and what?

[TripletDaddy]

Originally Posted by creekster

5th and what?

Its lower Manahato, so in the 20s maybe?

It has a big pink or red facade out front, so just cruise up 5th ave until you find it.

Do not confuse this Museum with other NY museums, such as the Met or the Guggenheim. You will know this museum because it will say clearly "Museum of Sex" out front on 5th Avenue.

[Burning Bright]

Originally Posted by woot

Check definition #7 and then realize you're using the wrong word. It's very clear from your original post what your concern is. It's fine having boundaries, but this one seems quite silly and potentially harmful. Your association of pajamas and teen pregnancy/STDs makes me wonder about your mental health.

I have quoted the dictionary twice and have made it abundantly clear that I am using the word as it is used in the 5 most common definitions.

There are so many influences in our society that lower inhibitions and promote unchaste behavior and the lowering of boundaries. I'm just trying to reinforce appropriate behavior and boundaries.