04-10-2008, 05:22 PM | #71 | |
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I read an article on Webmd.com a few months back that talked about regular 'sex dates'. The article said it's a good idea when a couple's libidos don't match up well, as it relieves a lot of the stress involved with a) the 'woman' (read: partner who wants it less) feeling guilty for denying it & stressed about the potential of being begged all the time, and b) the 'man' feeling put out for being rejected. It's important, IMO, to ensure at least some sexual compatibility with your future spouse. If there's certain hang-ups with one partner about sex, it's important to work those out beforehand...even if it means you end up parting ways.
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04-10-2008, 05:54 PM | #72 | |
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And did this couple not make out or anything while they were engaged? I was more worried about danimal and I messing up and not making it to the temple then I ever was about our actual wedding night. Finally having the permission to do what we'd been wanting to for those many months was a huge relief. I imagine most LDS engaged couples are the same. This couple is not the norm.
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04-10-2008, 06:18 PM | #73 | |
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It's not the church's responsibility to teach kids a correct understanding of sexuality & it's place in one's life. It's the parent's responsibility to do so. Expecting the church to do your dirty work for you is the height of irresponsibility.
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04-10-2008, 06:40 PM | #75 |
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From this April's conference? I missed it if there was.
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04-11-2008, 01:16 AM | #76 |
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Before I got married, my singles ward bishop gave my fiancee and I his wedding talk. Afterwards he told me that about 25% of the sisters who he gave that talk to had no clue about the very basic mechanics of how sex works.
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04-11-2008, 08:49 PM | #77 | |
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And as for the female/cultural problems above, it seems although (so I hear) Mormon men are inherently sexy, Mormen young women are taught NOT to be sexy, whether they are inherently or not. I still don't fully understand the way the marriage bridge crosses the chastity chasm--it's sort of weird to go from nothing really being permissible to suddenly being able to partake of all of the forbidden sexual delights at once. |
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