03-05-2008, 04:37 PM | #21 | |
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Plus, a lot of SAHMs do stay home a lot of the time. You were blessed, apparently, with a wife who had the energy, desire, and sociability to get out of the house a lot. I am too, but I know lots of SaHMs who spend most of their days inside the home. If you think otherwise, you're the delusional one; but why start with the attacks on our mental capacities? But seriously, just think about it . . . |
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03-05-2008, 05:36 PM | #23 |
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Another benefit of a large migrant population.
We pay a group of ladies to come to our house once a week and do a nice thorough clean....they come on fridays for about 3 hours. There are 3 of them. For $25 a week, we get: 1. Full vacuum of all rooms and steps 2. Bathroom countertops, tubs, mirrors, toilets (including folding the corners of the exposed piece of toilet paper) 3. Kitchen--clean countertops, polish appliances 4. Downstairs--clean wood floor with some sort of mop and wood cleaner thing 5. Throughout--Dust windowsills and take out trash I just factor that into our cost of living, as though it were part of my mortgage payment. It could quite possibly be the best money we spend. Not only does my wife get some help during the day, it makes our house look deep cleaned for several days, and my wife can take off with the kids for 3 hours every Friday morning to do something fun....she gets to recharge her batteries. You can pay more for them to come more often, but once a week is about all we need. The rest of the time, she doesnt feel overwhelmed. Plus, I dont mind doing stuff when I get home. I almost always vacuum at least once a week, but mostly because I like to do it.
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03-05-2008, 05:50 PM | #27 | |
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Each person comes for about an hour and does her thing--3 total manhours. So it actually works out to about $8-9 per hour. Often, they are there for less than the 3 hours, esp if they all show up at the same time. If you think about it, if your task was to empty the trashes and dust the windowsills, that isnt going to take you an hour. We live in a small 3 bedroom townhouse. The woman who does the mop on the wood floor takes the longest. the other 2 tend to breeze through pretty efficiently.
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I grew up in a home where my Mom ran a daycare. My entire life growing up when I left for school there were kids at the house and when I came home...there were kids at the house all the time up to, and sometimes past dinner time.
I feel I had a unique insight on the daily grind of parents who drop their kids off and the kids who are left to be without their mom or dad all day long. Personally I think it effects the relationship of the kid with the parents to a detriment...and that's just based on my upclose and personal observations growing up. My mom was fantastic with these kids and in her age and her condition many of these kids have grown up still calling her "Grandma" and love her to death. In short I think the parents miss out on way too much and I can imagine later on in life wish they had a lot of that back. Having said that, were I to get married again, I'm not a staunch advocate of one specific way. Do I have a preference? Yeah I do, I prefer her to stay home and raise the child that way, but if the girl I marry loves her career or wants to get into a career then I would do everything I could to support her in that so long as the children aren't neglected. I'm just not a big fan of the dropping kids off everyday, all day long at a daycare. To me the Role of Being a Mom is greater than the prestige one thinks a career can bring them. And no I'm not saying they can't do both, but if one were to choose, for me I know what my preference is.
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My wife spent several years in daycare as a child. Because of this, she was determined not to have our kids go through the same thing.
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