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RC Vikings · 10-30-2007, 03:38 PM

After twenty years of marriage I'm still not sure what they are. Give me some ideas here?

MikeWaters · 10-30-2007, 03:42 PM

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After twenty years of marriage I'm still not sure what they are. Give me some ideas here?

Make sure the oil gets changed at least every 3000 miles.

Indy Coug · 10-30-2007, 03:43 PM

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After twenty years of marriage I'm still not sure what they are. Give me some ideas here?

Keys to a nice car, keys to a nice house... you know, KEYS!

UtahDan · 10-30-2007, 03:44 PM

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After twenty years of marriage I'm still not sure what they are. Give me some ideas here?

1. Patience and knowing the the first thing that comes to mind is rarely the thing you should say.

2. Make sure that you make time to do fun things together. Life can be such a grind and there is plenty that isn't fun, but among the reasons that most of us got married is that we enjoy each other's company in the course of certain activities. Identify what those are try to have a least a little fun together every week.

3. Make sure that each of you gets to do things THEY enjoy, even if both of you don't enjoy them. If you have to sacrifice so that your spouse gets to do something that fulfills them, then do it.

4. Don't invest anything in your marriage with the expectation or reciprocation.

5. Read that hokey "love languages" book. Seriously.

6. Get counseling if you need it. Seriously.

BYU71 · 10-30-2007, 03:54 PM

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After twenty years of marriage I'm still not sure what they are. Give me some ideas here?

Each have their own spending money with about 10 times as much in the wifes account.

venomous viper · 10-30-2007, 04:06 PM

Marry your best friend. 37 years and still going very well... Also, remeber the 3 coms; communicate, compromise, and communicate. ok, really only 2 coms..

jay santos · 10-30-2007, 04:10 PM

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After twenty years of marriage I'm still not sure what they are. Give me some ideas here?

Don't try to change your spouse. Love and accept them for who they are right now.

RC Vikings · 10-30-2007, 04:28 PM

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Don't try to change your spouse. Love and accept them for who they are right now.

Is their a difference between help and change? She will come to me with a problem and so I will try to solve it. It turns out she doesn't want to hear how to solve the problem she just wants someone to listen to her. Honestly it drives me crazy.

Indy Coug · 10-30-2007, 04:30 PM

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Is their a difference between help and change? She will come to me with a problem and so I will try to solve it. It turns out she doesn't want to hear how to solve the problem she just wants someone to listen to her. Honestly it drives me crazy.

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venomous viper · 10-30-2007, 04:34 PM

they'll do that!! They just want you to LISTEN and show concern for her thoughts. DON"T TRY AND FIX IT!!!!!!!!!

10-30-2007, 03:38 PM	#1
RC Vikings Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Rexburg, Idaho Posts: 2,236	Keys to a happy marriage... After twenty years of marriage I'm still not sure what they are. Give me some ideas here?

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venomous viper Junior Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Cancun, AZ, TX and CA. Posts: 191	thats easy!!! Marry your best friend. 37 years and still going very well... Also, remeber the 3 coms; communicate, compromise, and communicate. ok, really only 2 coms..

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venomous viper Junior Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Cancun, AZ, TX and CA. Posts: 191	they don't want you to solve it, they'll do that!! They just want you to LISTEN and show concern for her thoughts. DON"T TRY AND FIX IT!!!!!!!!!