(Im)mutability of Same Gender Attraction

[MikeWaters]

Originally Posted by ERCougar

No, the majority of gays (and straights) don't "choose" to be gay or straight. However, there's a significant population who fall in the middle of the continuum who do choose their team, so to speak. I know several women (one a close friend) who had a lesbian phase (lengthy, and beyond just experimentation) and is now happily married to a man. I would call her legitimately bisexual. Curiously, I don't know any men who have gone from gay to straight, but I imagine that is due more to the incredible societal pressure on a man to at least try to be straight from the beginning; if they're openly gay, they've likely already tried the straight route.

Waters is likely right--there are likely a host of LDS men who are gay/bisexual and in hetero relationships. I think the church, to their credit, has certainly shifted in their advice to these men, from "fake it till you make it" to celibacy.

I don't think it is fair to say that when gay men are told to be celibate, that means that a gay RM is being told not to marry.

I think almost everyone who hears that counsel thinks it means "be celibate from gay sexual relations."

Does anyone know of an admonition where it is said young men with SSA should not marry?