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Traditional Roles of Men and Women
All this talk of Women's duties etc. from the Beck talk has been interesting for me.
I have been married for almost 11 years. My wife has never worked. We have kids ranging from 8 to 3 and my wife has been vocally miserable with her expected duty of "maid and cook" She did not clean the house to the degree that I wanted, and it was a source of contention for years. About a year ago I told her that I was no longer placing any expectation on her for cleaning the house. I instead took on the role. I come home from work and clean the kitchen, do the dishes, hit the laundry, pick up etc. My wife basked in her new found freedom. At first I did the bulk of the work, but in time she started to clean and keep things better throughout the day so that I wouldn't have so much to do when I got home. Long story short, once the expectation was removed I found that my wife was more than willing to clean as long as she felt that I too was willing. The traditional roles of men and woman don't really work as well in modern western society. |
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Let's see, she doesn't generate income and doesn't wish to tend to the house. What the hell does she want to do, be a kept woman?
WTF.
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However, working women tend to children without abandoning the maintenance aspects. Men should contribute no doubt, but a non-working woman complaining about housework is beyond ridiculous. It seems working women are better managers of time and resources, to make a general, non-specific statement.
Junior high kids are more work than 3 to 8 year olds.
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It really wasn't like that. I did the work with a smile on my face. I felt better towards my wife too once I took responsibility. My intent was harmony not manipulation. My wife appreciated it and responded with kindness.
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Let me take this rare moment and agree with Taq Man's approach. My wife is much happier when I attempt as best I can to take a team approach with household chores, food preparation and child rearing; as opposed to coming home from work and leaving everyone to their own devices.
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