I already posted this on the board, but I kind of wanted

[RockyBalboa]

Originally Posted by Black Diamond Bay

Let me be clear. I'm ruling out the possibility entirely.

It's a good thing I have high standards.

[Archaea]

Originally Posted by Black Diamond Bay

Let me be clear. I'm ruling out the possibility entirely.

Ah come on, we were looking forward to a report from the participants, with blow by blow descriptions.

[ute4ever]

Originally Posted by Archaea

How do members who divorce return to a sex is off limits life?

It sounds rather rigorous and difficult. For one moment, normal flirtation and foreplay is changed to something you were limited to in high school. Rolling back the clock sounds very difficult. Am I wrong?

Ever been on a diet? Years ago I went from 200 to 180, and it meant changing my eating habits and exercising regularly. It was a lifestyle change and the first week was the hardest, but after that, the different me became more accustomed & disciplined to the "healthier" foods than to the "take what you want" method.

Which means I suppose today's lunch at Tommy Burger was like a date with a hooker.

[Archaea]

Originally Posted by ute4ever

Ever been on a diet? Years ago I went from 200 to 180, and it meant changing my eating habits and exercising regularly. It was a lifestyle change and the first week was the hardest, but after that, the different me became more accustomed & disciplined to the "healthier" foods than to the "take what you want" method.

Which means I suppose today's lunch at Tommy Burger was like a date with a hooker.

Well I guess you're right, but I'm not buying it. For divorcees the rules should be changed. I'm voting for you ute4ever. You need me as your bishop.

[TripletDaddy]

Originally Posted by Archaea

Ah come on, we were looking forward to....blow by blow descriptions.

Hmmm....

[SoCalCoug]

Originally Posted by Archaea

How do members who divorce return to a sex is off limits life?

It sounds rather rigorous and difficult. For one moment, normal flirtation and foreplay is changed to something you were limited to in high school. Rolling back the clock sounds very difficult. Am I wrong?

If a couple gets to the point of divorce, chances are, they've already had a "sex is off limits" life for a while, so it's really not a huge change.

[SoCalCoug]

Can I hijack this flirtation thread and give my two cents on BDB's Person A and Person B?

I think Person A's viewpoint will work for Person A, but not for Person B. I think Person B's viewpoint will work for Person B, but not Person A.

BDB's viewpoint will work for BDB, and not necessarily for Person A or Person B. Nor will Person A's or Person B's viewpoints necessarily work for BDB.

In other words, to the extent that either Person A or Person B think BDB is wrong for having a viewpoint differing from theirs, I think they're both wrong.

[mpfunk]

Originally Posted by Black Diamond Bay

For the record Friend A is my best friend, and friend A is not perfect, does not have a spotless past, and has dated many men with and without a tr. She is currently married to a man who does not have a spotless past. She has been telling me for years that marriage is hard, and it takes work, and when things get rough you want to be know that you have a spouse who keeps covenants and will stay and work through things, not someone who throws in the towell when the hard times come. Let me just be very clear that we are not the discussing the opinions of a self-righteous, unforgiving, judgmental woman.

I think we are discussing the opinions of an unforgiving woman on this one. It doesn't seem like she wants to forgive him for not having a spotless past, and wants to blame whatever issues they are currently having on what he did in the past. Holding someone's past actions over someones head, or blaming their current actions on past resolved sins is not forgiving.

[Black Diamond Bay]

Originally Posted by mpfunk

I think we are discussing the opinions of an unforgiving woman on this one. It doesn't seem like she wants to forgive him for not having a spotless past, and wants to blame whatever issues they are currently having on what he did in the past. Holding someone's past actions over someones head, or blaming their current actions on past resolved sins is not forgiving.

The fact that you are willing to pass judgment on a woman you've never met before and know nothing about aside from the little snippet of information provided here really says a lot about you.

You don't know what you're talking about.

[mpfunk]

Originally Posted by Black Diamond Bay

The fact that you are willing to pass judgment on a woman you've never met before and know nothing about aside from the little snippet of information provided here really says a lot about you.

You don't know what you're talking about.

Based on what you are saying this appears to be the case. If you would like to give more information to rebut this notion that would be fine. However, what I see is someone who is blaming struggles on what her husband did in the past. A think a person who is truly forgiving would forget what happened in the past, and wouldn't use it as a basis for why their are current problems (assuming the past transgression was taken care of).

I do enjoy one thing about your post. You say it shows a lot about my character for making a judgment of a little snippet of information on someone I don't know and haven't met, than you go ahead and make a judgment on my character based on the little bit of information that you know about me, a person you don't know and haven't met.