Stake Conf. Topic: Sexaul Intimacy

[BarbaraGordon]

Originally Posted by RedHeadGal

They recently passed out a survey in my RS, asking for topics for their non-Sunday meetings. I was just thinking maybe I should suggest a sex toy party. And I'm not even kidding. Of course, they would never do it, but it would get the RS leadership talking about the topic. Maybe.

they can host one of those parties where you set up the pole and make everybody take turns practicing their moves.

[RedHeadGal]

Originally Posted by BarbaraGordon

they can host one of those parties where you set up the pole and make everybody take turns practicing their moves.

Yeah, that could be an additional, alternate suggestion. I wasn't going to bother to fill out the survey, but now I think I must.

Of course, if I put my name on it, they'll just roll their eyes. "There goes RHG again."

[Archaea]

Originally Posted by RedHeadGal

They recently passed out a survey in my RS, asking for topics for their non-Sunday meetings. I was just thinking maybe I should suggest a sex toy party. And I'm not even kidding. Of course, they would never do it, but it would get the RS leadership talking about the topic. Maybe.

Good thinking.

[bluegoose]

Originally Posted by RedHeadGal

They recently passed out a survey in my RS, asking for topics for their non-Sunday meetings. I was just thinking maybe I should suggest a sex toy party. And I'm not even kidding. Of course, they would never do it, but it would get the RS leadership talking about the topic. Maybe.

I'm afraid the only thing that they would be talking about would be how to slience the rogue sister who may be trying to put impure thoughts in the minds of the RS.

Was it an anonymous survey?

[BarbaraGordon]

Originally Posted by RedHeadGal

Yeah, that could be an additional, alternate suggestion. I wasn't going to bother to fill out the survey, but now I think I must.

Skip the survey. Just host the party yourself and pass out invitations on Sunday! And if you mark them all BYODC you won't even have to pay for the drinks!

[bluegoose]

Originally Posted by SoCalCoug

And the church is fostering that outlook by offering guidance to church members on sexual issues. Yes, it might be better to look elsewhere for guidance, but what do you do when that outside guidance conflicts with things that the church or church leaders have said in the past (e.g., statements about birth control, letter from the first presidency re oral sex, repeated proscriptions against masturbation)?

It's not so much that the church members are sitting back and waiting for guidance, as it is that the church has been so forthcoming with that guidance in the past. Can they really be faulted for doing so?

So what do you suggest?

[RC Vikings]

Originally Posted by BarbaraGordon

they can host one of those parties where you set up the pole and make everybody take turns practicing their moves.

The thought of this scares me more then "Saw V".

[Archaea]

Originally Posted by BarbaraGordon

Skip the survey. Just host the party yourself and pass out invitations on Sunday! And if you mark them all BYODC you won't even have to pay for the drinks!

You are an imp.

"Sisters, we have an investigator, who would like to host a special party for you all. We want to make her feel welcome."

[cougarobgon]

what she thought about the need for the follow up with the RS in the stake. She laughed it off by saying the sisters just aren’t "putting out". No big deal to her.

My wife and I did not receive any pre-marriage sex counsel from our bishop and we were able to figure things out on our own. During the first few weeks of a marriage couples tend to figure things out naturally. What satisfies your needs is between you and your spouse. It is later in the marriage when life gets complicated with school, work, kids, medical conditions, emotional stresses, so forth, when the “hang ups’ tend to surface. Although most bishops or SPs will never turn you away if you seek counsel, I expect a loving and caring bishop/SP to recognize his limitations and recommend professional counseling while continuing to f/u with you if the “hang ups” are affecting your spiritual well being.

[BarbaraGordon]

Originally Posted by cougarobgon

what she thought about the need for the follow up with the RS in the stake. She laughed it off by saying the sisters just aren’t "putting out". No big deal to her.

My wife and I did not receive any pre-marriage sex counsel from our bishop and we were able to figure things out on our own. During the first few weeks of a marriage couples tend to figure things out naturally. What satisfies your needs is between you and your spouse. It is later in the marriage when life gets complicated with school, work, kids, medical conditions, emotional stresses, so forth, when the “hang ups’ tend to surface. Although most bishops or SPs will never turn you away if you seek counsel, I expect a loving and caring bishop/SP to recognize his limitations and recommend professional counseling while continuing to f/u with you if the “hang ups” are affecting your spiritual well being.

This is an aside, but one thing I really appreciated was the non-church-sponsored premarital counseling my church required before we could be wed. The counselor was pretty much able to predict all our future areas of conflict and give us tools for how to address them when they became problems.